Understanding is something that doesn't come easy, something that you'd think would be obviously comprehensible until you finally realize the acceptance that follows it. Understanding is something that you come to learn over time, after you've had to endure enough and evaluate scenarios to see what the correct course of action is.
Over the last 11 months I've nurtured a company that I started with $15k and my Rolex Skydweller -- I turned that company in the short amount of time into a state licensed business to business cannabis distillate manufacturing brand that is facing a valuation of ten figures with the new team that has been brought on to help growth and expansion. In the early stages I was stubborn, it was something I had built with a set team and I didn't want to part with either the team or the control; something I learned as we progressed was that not everyone was ready for advancement and that to take it to the level I see befit for it wasn't something I was capable of achieving on my own.
Throughout that process though there was a lot of plight and disturbance, people felt like they had been displaced, wronged, mostly grief and emotion because they feel as if they hadn't had their fare share of the stick -- this is unavoidable and something you need to calculate the recourse for any time this scenario plays out, people will be left behind, some will feel as if you fucked them, it's part of life.
Before, I'd approach it with rage and violence -- it's an industry that still on the street level carries the hood mentality of fighting for your respect and going to any means for people to understand that you're that guy, you're willing to do what needs to be done. But the growth that I've seen with the company has also reflected internally and made me understand that you need to fight your battles with understanding and acceptance, not anger and violence.
You need to understand that humans are going to be humans and that when they feel they have been violated they're going to act out accordingly, or if they feel unaccepted they'll act out accordingly -- there's always an adverse reaction for attention or grief based off a given scenario. But you need to just accept the fate and know that there isn't much you're capable of doing when you know that at the end of the day, every party had their own hand and own role in a problem and they know that had they been understanding at the time they would've known that their actions throughout would be a deterrent to their performance inabilities in the future.
The same goes for personal life -- if you're trying to start down a new path in life but you still want to associate with old friends and associates you will see no growth potential. The majority of humans are complacent with where they are and what they're comfortable with; if you want to turn a new page you need to surround yourself with people in similar, if not the same category as your own so that way you have people around you that push you to do better and be better.
I live in the city of demons and false hope, I see it every day. The guy delivering my postmates is the same guy that's going to talk about the four auditions he has scheduled next week -- people come here without an understanding of what it takes to become what you want to be, but at least they're working while following the dream. Most won't even do that, they'll commit to a job or task at hand and be too lazy with their time to take on multiple jobs until the one they're chasing comes to fruition.
Prime case in point is all of the instagram models looking for attention and fame that can't figure out how to keep gas in their car or their lights on -- the problem here is everyone idolizes them because of their following or their surgeries and don't understand their own trials and tribulations; the largest problem with it is all of those that try to be a part of it don't understand that by trying to grow their social media presence and compete amongst a now saturated market, they're missing out on other opportunities for personal and business growth because of the negative attention they're surrounding themselves with.
At the end of the day, everything in your life will revolve around understanding; every action and reaction is systematically surrounded by understanding. Once you learn to understand you'll learn to grow -- you learn that not everything is meant to be held onto, not everything is meant to be a part of you, without growth there is complacency, with complacency is stagnation.
Leave the anger, spite, and remorse behind and focus more on understanding, the more you learn to understand the more you will grow and become who and what it is you've been chasing.