...or woman, I forgot it's 2017 and I'll be ostracized for my lack of political correctness...
Something that we see day in and day out, the inability for most to not feel inferior in various scenarios because they're afraid of being in a position of weakness. What they don't understand is that the prideful ego leaves you in a perpetual position of weakness because you aren't inclined to progress by thinking that you're already at a peak.
I've experienced this a lot over the last half of the year and it's a bit disconcerting because it shows the direction we as a society are headed, especially in the social media generation we reside in which we feel empowered because of follow or like counts -- none of it really matters, but it fuels the fire that is entitlement.
An experience I recently went through with one of my businesses is a prime example -- we took on investments, around $500k and managed to rise and fall all within a 6 month time frame for one reason, ego.
One issue was the product, it wasn't up to par, but it wasn't that it wasn't up to par because it couldn't be -- it wasn't up to par because one of the parties involved decided that they'd venture off to find people that they could have in their pocket in a smoke and mirrors effort as opposed to actually finding competent personnel that were capable of proper guidance. The creation of something the consumer actually wants vs the creation of something you want to control are two entirely different things.
The difficulty was that, being fueled by ego, the desire of control for every regard in order to prove oneself worthy forced us to pay the ultimate price, failure. The gross incompetency displayed throughout the production and building stages really became relevant as I became more involved. The more I tightened the leash in the company the more it fell apart.
The failure was created by ones desire to be 'the one', the necessity of being known as the person that created it even if they weren't. The desire to be the outlier of the group -- but the rules that people don't understand are that those that talk the most know the least. If you're the loudest, you're the weakest, and if you need to explain your every move to everyone -- there's a reason behind it and it isn't a valid one.
The company collapsed once fingers began being pointed and claims began being made, about how one was this or one was that and how they were holier than thou throughout the process. But what the biggest failure was, the confidence behind the ego caused them to believe that their staked claims wouldn't come to light -- they did, and the company fell.
Humans have evolved to a point where they don't feel as if they need the help of others; you are your network, plain and simple. If you're interested in progression, take the help when it comes your way, don't allow your ego -- or your pride -- to allow you to lose out on opportunities because you feel as if you can do it on your own even though you don't need to.
It's better to cumulatively build together than it is than to try and prove to everyone that you can do it on your own, building a strong team is both difficult and satisfying because you need to watch for the snakes in the grass as you navigate the land.
Keep your eyes open and maintain your focus, my half a million dollar learned lesson in 2017.
- You can build together or fail alone -